Spanking- My CDD Christian Domestic Discipline lifestyle

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First let me just say this MY marriage… MY life and I’m very happily married.  This may not be for you… but it works for me.  I DO have a CDD marriage. with spanking, and  rules.

I do submit to my husband as God said I was to do. Now that is  in the Bible. I’m addressing this to Christians who try to do what God says to do. I am not going to debate with any feminists at this time, or non-Christians, or Christians who believe that submission applied “back then” but doesn’t now.

I am 32. My husband Paul is 45. He spanks me when I do something I shouldn’t. He uses a strap, a paddle, a hairbrush and we are working up to the belt. He makes me remove my clothes and either lay across the bed, or he puts me over his lap. I am spanked until I am crying . I know I deserve the spankings he gives me. I get spanked by my husband when I do something which we deemed unacceptable. I am spanked OTK (Over The Knee), with a paddle or however he determines. I deserve the spankings, they need to be severe in order to break me of naughtiness or bad habits. I’m glad that at least some of my punishments are administered across my husband’s lap. That’s precisely where a I deserve to be put when my bottom requires disciplinary attention. It is quite painful and humiliating but sure is better than getting into arguments along with hours of silence.

There are so many people in the world who do not believe it is the responsibility of the husband to spank his wife. A woman may be different from a man, but neither one is above the other. Most people think that in DD the husband is the end all, be all in the marriage but the wife has a equal say in the marriage. Why shouldn’t a wife be punished when she does something her husband and she perceives as “naughty”? She is an adult, and she has a right to do whatever she wants so long as it is not illegal. If she wants to submit to her husband and give him the authority to spank/punish her than it is her choice. She is not crazy, abused or weird. She is doing what she needs or wants in her life. It is not easy to make that decision to give that authority to her husband. No one wants to be punished but there are times that I need, crave or deserve it.

I very much don’t want to be spanked/punished. But if I speed, then the correct punishment is to have to pay the fine. If I am bratty or do something that both my husband and I deems wrong then I pay the fine. Maybe the fine is a spanking, or corner time but again there are rules (laws) in our house and I have to pay the fine. It seems to me that I would try not to do something that will get me punished but sometimes I just can’t help myself

I know what my husband does is NOT abuse. I was raised in a home where the husband was the head of the house. What Dad said went. When my brother, sister, and I disobeyed , he spanked us with his belt. My husband has spanked me for many reasons sometimes just because I needed it. He spanked my bare bottom until I could not sit. I if it is ok with me I don not worry or care about what other people think.

The key is that domestic discipline, where the husband lovingly leads, guides, and CORRECTS his wife (with spanking, corner time, etc.), has to truly consensual. Some women cannot imagine that woman like me actually want such a relationship. But for me it makes for harmony in the home, better behavior, and great sex!
Submitting to my husband and learning to respect him, as God said for wives to do (Eph. 5:22-24 for one example), strengthened my marriage, and maybe even saved it from disaster. I love my husband. I’m thankful that God pointed out to me His design for marriage, because I had somehow overlooked those verses before.

It’s not easy though, to submit to your husband, especially without there being a consequence for disrespect or hurtful words and actions. If  you keep it up, then I run the risk of “tearing down my house with my own hands” like a fool (Proverbs 14:1). I do keep praying and trying, but I have to stay very aware of the issue, or I slip into disrespect again. Given the choice between my husband shutting me out (which is what he sometimes did now) and eventually leaving me, or turning me over his knee and spanking my rear end, causing it to sting and me to cry… I’ll take the spanking any day of the week. I would prefer it. To me, it’s an active intervention to say, “You will NOT jeopardize our love and our marriage with reckless words.”

I can offer you fifty reasons why you might want to let him take you across his lap and indulge his dreams.

  1. The lovemaking afterward is often sensational
  2. Romantic spanking opens lines of communications
  3. There’s a community of spankos to provide support and advice
  4. Adult spanking is the most common of all kinks
  5. It can strengthen your relationship
  6. Just picture those beautiful globes over his  lap…
  7. he is eager for this, really!
  8. Compared to childbirth, the pain of a spanking is trivial
  9. This is not punishment, think instead about spanking as foreplay
  10. Spanking builds trust between partners
  11. It’s really OK to hit a woman, but only if she enjoys it
  12. This isn’t weird or unusual, it’s just another kind of sex
  13. he can be the strong, decisive man of your fantasies
  14. What’s not to like?
  15. Do the initials B. J. hold any significance?
  16. Many couples include erotic spanking in their lovemaking
  17. His dream can be your pleasure
  18. It’s something fun you can do together
  19. You could make it a game
  20. Spankings can be relaxing
  21. There are many other dedicated spanko
  22. Role play spankings are great fun
  23. If something doesn’t work, you don’t have to repeat it
  24. It isn’t about the pain, it’s about a shared experience
  25. This opens an exciting new chapter in your relationship
  26. Spankings promote greater physical and emotional intimacy
  27. Your willingness to try demonstrates your love for him
  28. It’s wonderful to feel completely in love again
  29. With a safeword, you can tell him before things go truly wrong
  30. Your his  your lover – It’s OK if his fingers wander southward
  31. The process of experimentation allows a couple to grow together
  32. It’s with you she wants to share this secret
  33. Spankings don’t have to be serious – You can laugh and joke
  34. Most women’s bottoms are well padded – real damage is unlikely
  35. Consensual spanking is not abuse
  36. Spanking can be a huge turn-on for both of you !
  37. He won’t think that you’re mean if you’re doing as he asked
  38. You could get her to dress up for her spanking
  39. With a few simple rules, adult spankings are safe and fun
  40. We women are tougher than you think
  41. he  can be your hero!
  42. He’ll  love how your skin grows warm.
  43. Hugs and kisses
  44. It’s wonderful to spoon after a spanking
  45. Make him smile – tease him about future spankings
  46. You can start small and simple
  47. He’ll adore you all the more for listening to his needs
  48. He has  always wanted to threaten to “tan your hide?”
  49. It’s fun to collect and test various spanking implements
  50. This list will add a new dimension to your relationship.

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We both know that I will do it.

When you ordered me to fetch that wooden paddle from your bedroom, telling me to keep my skirt up and my panties where they were, rolled under my cheeks in such a way that made me want to reach back and hide my burning shame, in my mind I hesitated. But that hesitation didn’t last long, because you said so and it must be done.

When you ordered me to the corner my resistance was gone, weathered away by the storm of your palm and paddle thundering against my cheeks, your words making me feel small and quiet but not insignificant. Never insignificant. I feel like the center of your world when you hold me. When you look at me, I know you are seeing all of the parts, flaws and all, and you cherish them. You even kiss the ugly parts of me.

And when you made me bend in front of you while you were seated, I knew you were seeing everything — turning me into a house without walls, opening me in such a way that hiding was impossible — and it scared me for a moment. But I did it because you said so.

This is unusual for me. I am the girl who needs to know why. I am the woman who makes up her own mind. But because you say so, I do not question you. I know that you will keep me safe, battling my own fears right alongside me, demanding that with you there is always truth. With you, in humility there is dignity.

I love it when you say so.

I need you to say so.

I am yours because I say so.

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My dear husband,

You punished me severely and made me sore and sorry because I did  not behave as I should.   You didn’t want to do it, but I gave you no alternative.  You did a very good job and I will repeatedly thank you for all you have done.

Thank-you for expecting the best of me!

Thank-you for setting limits and correcting me!

Thank-you for punishing me safely and effectively!

Thank-you for all your patience, wisdom, strength and determination!

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I promise to behave responsibly and lovingly forever!

I know you love me dearly and that I have your support, guidance and encouragement in being my best self.

I will ask you at least twice a week to punish me if I fail to be the truthful, responsible, caring, respectful woman I really want to be.

I am an adult and I must be responsible.  I must never hurt you or anyone else – emotionally or physically.  The pain I feel in my bottom represents a fraction of the suffering I have caused you and other people.  I expect better of myself and I promise never to be mean, dangerous or hurtful again.  I know that you are ready, willing and able to punish me harder, time and again, with the BATH BRUSH FROM HELL and in other ways, such as writing these wretched LINES, if I do not fully learn my lesson this time.

Your GOOD Girl

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My dear husband,

You punished me severely and made me sore and sorry because I did  not behave as I should.   You didn’t want to do it, but I gave you no alternative.  You did a very good job and I will repeatedly thank you for all you have done.

Thank-you for expecting the best of me!

Thank-you for setting limits and correcting me!

Thank-you for punishing me safely and effectively!

Thank-you for all your patience, wisdom, strength and determination!

I promise to behave responsibly and lovingly forever!

I know you love me dearly and that I have your support, guidance and encouragement in being my best self.

I will ask you at least twice a week to punish me if I fail to be the truthful, responsible, caring, respectful woman I really want to be.

I am an adult and I must be responsible.  I must never hurt you or anyone else – emotionally or physically.  The pain I feel in my bottom represents a fraction of the suffering I have caused you and other people.  I expect better of myself and I promise never to be mean, dangerous or hurtful again.  I know that you are ready, willing and able to punish me harder, time and again, with the BATH BRUSH FROM HELL and in other ways, such as writing these wretched LINES, if I do not fully learn my lesson this time.

Your GOOD Girl

5 Responses

  1. Dominic 07. Nov, 2010 #

    REALLY..? Your Husband spanks you?!! I have heard of this but I never thought this kin of thing happens in real life… well to each his own… live and let live I say

  2. Lilith Pane 07. Nov, 2010 #

    This was amazing, Lisa. I love the recurring theme, and I feel the safety and security he brings you, as I read.

    You’re very insiring.

    << A Follower for life!
    -Lil

  3. Janine Harewood 08. Nov, 2010 #

    I was spanked by my parents as a child and now am spanked by my husband sometimes. I have never liked being spanked but sometimes I am bratty and a spanking makes me snap out of it…

  4. pansy 08. Nov, 2010 #

    i get spanked by my husband when i do something which gets him upset. i agree to be punished.. with his bare hands or with my hairbrush. it is quite painful but sure is better than getting into arguments along with hours of silence.

  5. lucy Wakefield 02. Oct, 2011 #

    I feel like i have looked into a mirror when i read your blog page. I am so happy to find a kindred spirit your husband is a good and wonderful man. You are a wonderful woman. My husband and i our selves practice CDD in Gods name like you we have found CDD a blessing.

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